When I was first coming out in the early 2010’s things were pretty different. The gay community was still really fixated on cock, which is great— penises are hot! But there was also this intense anti-pussy sentiment that ran through the community. In order to prove you were really the gayest gay that ever gayed, you had to talk shit about vaginas. And FTM porn— well, it was out there, but not a whole lot of people were paying attention!
Things today have changed a lot, and there are plenty of reasons for that. The trans community is finally being represented in a positive light, and with it, many of us are using this new platform to educate people about sex, gender, and sexuality. One of the biggest strides we’ve made is showing people that genitals don’t equal gender.
What do I mean by that? Well, I mean that a person’s genitals don’t dictate their gender identity. That means that guys can have pussies, girls can have dicks, and people who are nonbinary, agender, bigender, genderqueer, or any other gender identity can have any type of genitals. I get that this is a tough concept— most of us have spent our entire lives believing that being a man means having a penis, and it's not so simple to shake.
I think porn is an amazing tool. It’s not only a great way to get off and explore your sexual fantasies in a safe way, but it’s also a unique form of representation, especially for trans folks. Sure, it can dip into fetishizing territory, and it’s not all super positive. But the stuff that is positive, especially content made by trans folks like myself, is doing its part to change minds.
The more people see guys with front holes (bonus holes, pussies, vaginas, whatever you like to call it!), the more they’re able to normalize the idea that having a penis isn’t what makes someone a man. It’s how they identify, how they express themselves, how they present to the world. And, it’s how they interact with others sexually. My sex with men is gay sex, pure and simple.
Here’s the bottom line: if you’re watching my porn or checking out my videos, it’s because you find me hot as a man. Being gay just means that you like men, and I happen to be a man with a pussy. No need to have a crisis of sexuality over it!
So keep enjoying what you like, keep exploring, and keep learning about your sexuality. Trust me, it makes life a whole lot more fun and interesting.